I think this is a question which runs often thought our mind, especially after bad relationship or going down memory lane. We understand it but we don’t talk about it enough. There is something about bad boys which attract us like flies to the poop. Because even we know smell is terrible, something pulls us over to check it out. And we bite it, and later regret it.
So what is about those bad boys? Testosterone? Those bad boys charms? Of course, that is a big part. Being all cool and wanting to be cool with him? Oh yes. Some part of us wants to be around ´cool´ people even deep inside we know there is nothing cool about it. Even when we grow up something about those boys makes us women go crazy. Maybe that’s some teenage dreams which didn’t come true because we likes very much some cool bad boy and he never looked at us and now we want to prove to ourselves (why oh why) that we are good enough for that sexy bad stud. So we date them, put up with a lot of rotten potatoes, like sexist jokes which makes us go red, comments which makes out eyes go on out forehead, critics about our looks and weight, never keeping a promise and never showing up on time. I could continue, list is long and the way to the Mars.
Another reason that we dream how bad boy will change for us. We grow up or live watching TV shows where we follow love stories like on ´Gossip girl´ between bad boy Chuck Bass and Blair Waldorf, or from ´Sex and the city´ Carrie Bradshaw´s difficult and painful relationship with Mr. Big. Bad boy changed for them and after all that torture they ended up with bad boy becoming good man and happily ever after. Does that really happen in real life? Well at least I never heard a happy ending to a relationship between bad boy (or girl) and good girl (boy). Because no matter for how long we will put up with shit, it’s still shit and it still stinks and it´s not pretty. So why we fool ourselves over and over again? We want to be a Cinderella which gets to be kidnaped from her routine and driven away on a motorcycle or in a limo, whatever your vision is. Because no matter if bad boy wears a suit or leather jacket, he is still same person who treats you bad and will. People rarely change, they grow up, some to be smarter, some, well stays on same level, but do people really change their character? Attitude towards second half, or person they are dating or just using for some funky business in the bedroom? Stop trying to change someone who can´t be changed. Open your eyes and see that is someone does not respect you, is ashamed of you, criticizes you or over all treats you like a peace of poop, that person does not deserve it. Stop thinking that you are not good enough for better relationship, no matter who you are or what mistakes you did or will do, because we all screw up, that’s life, we all deserve to be treated like normal human beings. Try to be a bee and be attracted to honey and have a taste of something sweet.
And this does not affect only romantic relationships, it might be work relationship where you are mistreated by your co-worker, or boss, or it might be relationship between friends where someone always puts you down, or even family member who likes to criticize your every more. Sometimes it doesn’t matter how much you love somebody if they don’t respect you. That makes you not respect yourself for being in such relationship. It’s a poison ivy which keeps burning you. It´s sometimes just time to stand up, walk to the door, and walk right though it and keep waking not looking back. Because if someone is a baboons ass (no fence to baboons) they will continue being a baboons ass. And you really don’t have to be around that. Stand up for yourself and learn how to love yourself and surround yourself with people who respect you. Step by step.
