This blog post is not about every single women in planet, we are different and have our own distinctive features in character. This little blog post describes the women who surround me and our views, since I have heard from men before not once that it seems very hard to understand us. Lets see, is it really? I don´t things so. :)

Number One

Don´t try to understand every single thing we do or we think. We change our opinions like every other person, just because we liked something two months ago really doesn't mean that we will still like it and want it now, so try keep up to date of likes and dislikes, especially trying to make a surprise that we could really enjoy it. You can simply ask our opinion. It´s not as hard as painting a masterpiece, its easy peasy.

We might go crazy and say we want you to do that, or go there and there and see that and that. Just go with it and let us sometimes have the control of situation even if we make mistakes, every does mess up sometimes and for everyone I think it´s important that their wishes would be considered. Really. Let us lead the way and feel like we are in charge even it´s chaos. Every single person in this planet is not perfect, everyone makes mistakes, let it happen.

Number Two

Don´t criticize us for mistakes every 5 minutes, we already know we f up and will know how to handle same situation next time. No one likes to be criticized for honest mistakes, men or females. And I know sometimes us girls need to bite our tongue not to criticize you also, we don't say straight to your face that hey man, I told you before I hate those flowers. We get flowers and we say thank you for the gift (exceptions might happen, some of us are strong character and will tell it straight, I hate it, #oopsy).

Number Three

Support. All of us need it. Especially when feeling down. Sometimes it might be just a strong long hug, sometimes we need to be listened to for an hour (I know it´s not the most pleasant activity, but deal with it, you we want your sport games it other tv programs we are totally not interested it for much more hours). And even if we feel like biggest loser, remind us that we are not and what we did right (that things goes for both sexes very well).

Number Tour

Fairy-tale alike. Even if we don´t act like it, women likes promises (within reason) and making plans for the future, it makes us feel safe, motivated, more sure after we been with someone for a while, knowing that this is going forward and not backwards. You definitely don´t have to put a ring on it straight away, we are not running a marathon, we are walking a journey together. Just express that you want to continue our adventures together. Simple and a pickle.

If you don´t feel like this woman is for you, but you want to continue relationship, then for sure don´t make fake promises, it will be just because more pain and doubt in ourselves. It´s like putting in a blender and smashing together at one time heart and dreams, not a good smoothie, believe me. Anyway, it´s better not to be with someone if you don't feel like this is something for you, just passing time. Maybe some women are okay with it and they are doing the same, but many of us are looking for a stable partner in crime called life. And for sure if you don´t see future with a woman, DO NOT introduce her with your parents. It makes us feel like you do see future with us. It´s just too confusing and makes us dizzy like a roller-coaster.

Number Five

You want beautiful girl, don’t you? So stop commenting how long does it takes to get ready. Many of us doesn´t feel attractive without make up and we need to change clothing at least 5 times to decide if we look good enough. Some of us get ready in 5 minutes, all women are different. Just don´t nag us about things which takes time, self care, money if it brings us more confidence in our selves. Be supportive and tell us that we are beautiful every day. Help us to build that confidence and self love, we appreciate compliments, even is we don´t show it, it makes us warm, happy and all fuzzy inside.

Number Six

Don´t try to control us and our time. I know that some guys always like to be busy and expects the girl to be very flexible, so that they could spend time together. Saying in the evening and not specifying time might take away many hours which we would of spend with our friends. Expecting us to be available last minute always. If girl likes the guy, she loses herself into always being available for the guy and never for her friends. That becomes isolation sometimes and just waiting for that prince on a white horse to show up and finally gives us attention. Meh. Especially if guy becomes angry why you are with friends when I am free now (going angry for it, it´s just ridiculous as thinking that the earth is flat). I know someone who constantly loses their selves in such situations and it´s sad to see it and much harder to pull someone out from a basement to amusement part to enjoy life again. If you like a girl, learn how to plan your time, find time and make yourself available. If you are and adult which can´t still plan their time, then I have no comment. #sorrynotsorry That also includes showing appreciation, which comes next.

Number Seven

For me personally this is the key. Appreciation. Both men and women likes to be appreciated, in different way. For example if your girlfriend prepares amazing food for you, does your laundry etcetera etcetera, you know it takes time, so hard it is to say ´thank you´ every time? It takes 1,5 seconds and maybe we were preparing food for 1,5 hours. Maybe we support you in looking for a new job and spend hours going through job adverts looking for new opportunities for you. Show some appreciation. Thank us more often for the things we do for you or show us that you give a shit for everything we do, we need to feel that all we do doesn´t go down the drain but to your heart. Prepare dinner (very romantic btw), buy flowers (also romantic), or chocolates what ever if preference of the women. There is no need to spend a lot of money, happiness comes in little things and makes us happy. Like watching a movie we like in candle light at home or anything else what would bring a smile to our face. So as every man feel happy when he feel appreciated for the effort, no? Because no matter how long have you been together, everyone has breaking point. I know people who ended long term relationships because of this exact reason, because many of us likes to give a lot and we expect at least something back. But if it feel that it´s like a desert already and you don't try to water the plant (relationship), why go on? So don´t take it for granted. Everyone want to be appreciated and feel some happiness and romance coming their way.

That's it. Like it, hate it. Different people have different point of view. And I have my metaphors which I will love forever.