How many chances people deserve?

I think all of us decides to forgive someone in our lives, for something they did to hurt us, but how many times can you forgive someone until it´s enough?

It doesn´t matter if it´s a friendship, relationship or family member. What can be enough? When we need to decide to let someone go from our lives?

Often people who hurts us over and over are toxic, selfish, or narcissist thinking only about themselves and not carrying what consequences their actions have on other peoples lives.

It´s like a guy who comes into your life, like a prince on a white horses, feeds you promises sweet as chocolate, promise you can have the life you dream of with him, but slowly he starts feeding you shit, and just sometimes gives you sweet taste of chocolate to keep you going and not running away. Is it worth to be with someone who is abusive psychologically, physically or sexually just for some rare sweet moments? Definitely not.

Psychological abuse is easiest to be left unnoticed and understood. It can start with comments, critics, saying you are always doing something wrong. And then you think that you are in the wrong, then you are not. Like calling you a liar when you never lied. Is it worth being with someone who makes you suffer just because of some fake promises? No.

Same goes with friends, if someone keeps trying to pretend to be this very good friend, but likes to mention how you are doing everything wrong, instead of trying to understand you for once, does that friendship has a future? No.

Another instance, which also sadly I experienced more than once, in relationships and friendships, is when you help someone, but when you need help and understanding, people turn their back on you. Does not matter is it physical or emotional help. Imagine if you keep helping someone, listen to them and their problems for hours and hours because you really want to help those people just by being there, but what you get back is nothing. Nothing then it is you who needs to be understood and helped, you get cold shoulder or even stab in the back. Some people just like to take and take, but for them it´s very easy to turn on you when you need help or they are just done with you, found someone else to use.

Like imagine you giving up better work place so your friend could have it, but when you need that friend to make one phone call to help you, that is too much. Or you help someone get job place, but they are not doing their job and tries to put blame on you. And yes that happened, and no, I chose to not keep people who hurt me in my life.

If it happened once you think it wouldn´t happen again? No, it would happen again. No matter how many chances out of love you will give someone. People can rarely change and only with professional help. But people who are users usually don´t want to be helped because they like the life they are living. My personal choice is enough is enough, and sometimes no matter how hurtful it is, you need to let go. You can´t be happy having someone in your life who keeps trying to bring you down. And you deserve to be happy.